May 08, 2025

Pressure Proof Tip with Daniel Stewart: Reframing Isn't About Hanging Pictures

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At some point in your riding career, you probably found yourself feeling or dealing with a little fear, failure, or frustration. We’ve all been there. Regardless of whether we’re competitive or recreational, we’ve likely found ourselves getting a bit stuck on stress or a struggle; dealing with a little defeat or disappointment, or feeling overwhelmed or underprepared. You name it, and we’ve probably all felt it…and it can get the best of the best of us. The good news is that it’s actually quite normal to feel these emotions from time to time and, and feeling bad things might actually say something really good about us.

Sports psychologists profess that it’s common (and even expected) for us to experience periodic anxious emotions when we engage in activities that are meaningful to us. After all, if doing what we're doing doesn’t mean anything to us, we likely won't be very worried about not doing it well. But when we’re doing things we love, the fear of failing, loss, or not doing it well can frequently become part of our story. So my first piece of advice is to always remember that when you’re frustrated by how you’re feeling, it’s probably an indication you’re doing something you really love (or doing it with a horse you love).

But this does create a bit of an obvious conundrum. While it may normalize the negative and help us understand why we sometimes feel bad things when doing good things, the fact still remains…we’re feeling bad things while doing good things! As if this weren’t enough, our brains give greater priority to the negative in our lives, meaning it’s only a matter of time before the bad begins to feel worse and the good begins to feel…well less good (because less gooder isn’t a thing). As it turns out, negative emotions are a bit like onions; each time we peel away a layer there’s another layer, and each one makes us cry more!

With this in mind, learning to lower the bad so we can lift the good is one of the greatest mental skills any of us can develop; and the good news is there’s a really simple two-phase trick that can help us do just that: (1) Silence our egos by accepting and admitting that we’re not always going to be perfectly good at feeling good, and (2) Trick our brain into lessening the sting and stigma of any harmful or humbling thoughts by reframing them into humorous ones. As it turns out, levity, laughter, and light-heartedness are three of the strongest of all coping mechanisms!

Reframing is the practice of changing bad thoughts into good by purposely changing how we interpret or label them, and we can multiply its impact by coming up with labels that help us feel some of that laughter and light-heartedness. One neat way to do this is by creating labels that become blended words (think hangry, clamping, jeggings, and spork). For example, we can blend feeling frustrated and cranky into FRANKY and tell ourselves that “Franky got the best of us today,” or we can blend a missed distance into a MISSTANCE and tell ourselves that “It was just a little misstance”. Another fun option would be to find an acronym that makes us smile like saying, “I sometimes feel a bit of PMS when riding in front of crowds.” In this case, PMS stands for "people make me scared."

This form of reframing works because of how our brain works; it’s incapable of creating two opposing emotions at the same time…meaning we just can’t feel calm and tense, nervous and excited, or happy and sad at the same time. The brain just isn’t wired that way. We have to pick one. This also means that we can’t be laughing and crying at the same time (even though most of us have tried!). The choice is ours. How much does it mean to us to be calm, excited, and happy?

So the next time the bad is ruining a good thing, remember that reframing hurtful thoughts into harmless or humorous ones can literally change the way your brain interprets those situations and lessen the control they have over you. Follow up your new comical commands with a little smile and chuckle, and you’ll all be shocked at just how good you can become at controlling your emotions before they take control of you!

I hope you enjoyed this month’s Pressure Proof tip and are looking forward to more. If you’re a visual learner and would like to take my online self-paced equestrian sport psychology class please just let me know. It’s upbeat and enjoyable and I’m certain you’d love it! For more info, click here.

May 07, 2025 Interscholastic

Through the Lens: 2025 USEA Intercollegiate & Interscholastic Eventing Championships

We might still be recovering physically from the excitement of the 2025 USEA Intercollegiate & Interscholastic Eventing Championships, but mentally we keep playing the weekend over and over again in our heads. This is a weekend that many eventers and lovers of the sport all over the country (ourselves included) look forward to each year and this year was no exception. From teams getting to experience their first time ever at the championship to mascots swapping gear in a show of camaraderie, there were so many great moments that took place during this year's end-of-the-school-year event. Take a look at some of our favorite moments from the three day competition below!

May 06, 2025 Competitions

Fast Facts: Tryon International Three-Day Event

As we gear up for the summer, the competition season isn’t slowing down and it’s time for one of the staple events on the international calendar in the U.S., the Tryon International Three-Day Event (Mill Spring, North Carolina). This event hosts one of five CCI4*-L events on the U.S. calendar, and this year there are 13 competitors in the field. Continue reading below for more interesting facts pertaining to the event that kicks off this Thursday, May 8.

May 06, 2025 Sponsor

#WeRideTogether Renews Partnership with USEA to Promote Awareness and Education for Safer, Healthier Horse Sport

The United States Eventing Association (USEA) is proud to announce the continued partnership with #WeRideTogether as an Official Educational Partner of the USEA. #WeRideTogether is a non-profit organization dedicated to advancing safety and well-being in sports through safeguarding education and abuse prevention efforts.

May 05, 2025 Interscholastic

Thanks to the 2025 USEA Intercollegiate & Interscholastic Eventing Championships Supporters!

The 2025 USEA Intercollegiate & Interscholastic Eventing Championships were an incredible success, ushering the programs forward as the first standalone championships knock on the door for 2026. The Intercollegiate and IEL Programs were merged for their year-end championships to ensure that the USEA’s junior and young adult members have a goal to continue to pursue their passion for eventing throughout their educational years and beyond, and the support the event has received in the last two years has been astounding.

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